Ohio University Mahler Object Relations Theory Discussion

I’m working on a psychology discussion question and need a sample draft to help me learn.

Is having more choices or fewer choices, more conflicts or fewer conflicts, advantageous to forming an identity (Erickson’s personality theory. Ego development)

Which contributes more to the persistence of a relationship, love or ego skills?  Include rationale (Development of interpersonal relationships. Mahler’s object relations theory)